Proposing can be one of the most nerve-wracking experiences of a lifetime. Even if you’ve been together for years, it can be enough to make you break out in a cold sweat and drop the engagement ring in the ocean as you pop the question on your luxury yacht trip!

1. Do know the answer in advance

This one sounds a little obvious, but if you’re planning on proposing via the big screen at a footy match, it pays to know the love of your life’s feelings on marriage in advance. The best way to do this is to initiate a conversation about your future goals and aspirations, to ensure you have a shared vision for the future together.

As spontaneous and romantic as a quick proposal might seem, you don’t want to run the risk of scaring someone away with a showy gesture that comes too early. Plus, no one deserves to go through that cringe-worthy pause of someone who’s been put on the spot, especially in a public arena!

2. Don’t forget the engagement ring matters most

Engagement rings are a symbol of love and as such are often the highlight of any proposal. Choosing a ring doesn’t have to be hard when you seek professional advice from a jeweller. Consider your future partner’s personal preferences by observing what jewellery she (or he) wears and overall style, whether it be classic, vintage, girly or glamorous. It’s also a good idea to have it sized properly using an existing ring, so your soon-to-be fiancé can slip it on the second they say “yes.”

3. Do choose a memorable location

You want the location for your proposal to be special and memorable. But, rather than trying to compete with romantic gestures made famous in movies, consider a spot that’s meaningful for both of you.

This could be a foreign destination where you had your first kiss, the coffee shop where you first set eyes on each other, or your very own lounge room decorated for the special event. Be very careful when deciding about public proposals, keeping in mind that your loved one may prefer a private affair over a public display.

4. Do get down on one knee

Yes, it’s very old fashioned and a total cliché, but, for that very reason it’s possibly one of the most romantic gestures you’ll ever make. It adds that extra little bit of anticipation, because your partner will know exactly what’s coming. Plus, no matter where you decide to do it, the image will create a cherished memory that will last a lifetime.

5. Don’t tell anyone

If you want to keep your proposal a secret, it’s vitally important not to tell anyone.

At the top of the list are best friends, even if you’re desperately in need of a second opinion about the ring. People are notoriously bad at keeping such exciting secrets and even the most well-intentioned of friends and family may accidentally blurt your news out in the midst of a conversation.

As long as you forget about comparing your big moment to others and follow a few simple guidelines in order to take some of the pressure off, you’ll be able to create a personalised proposal you’ll both remember for the rest of your lives.